Life in Black & White (and all the shades in between)

Ever wondered what it’s really like to live with ADHD as an adult? In this episode, we're sitting down with Mhairi, who shares her story - her late diagnosis, the ups and downs in relationships, parenting struggles, and the emotional rollercoaster it brings.
We talk about coping strategies, why ADHD isn’t just a challenge but can actually be a superpower, and how just a bit of awareness can make a huge difference.
It’s honest, real, and full of takeaways you’ll actually use - whether for yourself or someone you care about.
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TAKEAWAYS:
ADHD can often be misunderstood and misdiagnosed, leading to emotional struggles.
Personal experiences with ADHD can vary greatly, impacting relationships and self-perception.
Finding coping strategies is essential for managing ADHD effectively.
Awareness and advocacy for ADHD are crucial in changing societal perceptions.
Embracing ADHD as a superpower can lead to a more positive self-image.
Support from family and friends plays a significant role in navigating ADHD challenges.
Education about ADHD can help reduce stigma and promote understanding.
Emotional regulation is a common struggle for those with ADHD.
The importance of finding one's passion and not conforming to traditional academic paths.
Peer support and lived experiences can be more valuable than formal qualifications.
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In this episode of Life in Black & White, we chat with Julia Boccio, who went from copywriting to photography, and ultimately to becoming a successful rom-com author.
Julia shares the highs and lows of changing careers, navigating traditional publishing, and turning a viral wedding dance video into life-changing opportunities (yes, that includes meeting Patrick Swayze and Oprah!).
Julia opens up about the importance of mental health, support systems, and having a solid strategy when chasing your passions.
Her journey is packed with inspiration, practical tips, and proof that it’s never too late to follow your dreams!
 
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Following our recent run-in with online trolls, today’s episode of Life in Black & White is all about trolls, haters, and those unwanted opinions that seem to appear everywhere—whether it's on social media or in real life.
We share personal experiences, unpack why people throw shade, and explore how to protect your peace while staying confident in who you are. We also emphasise the importance of understanding the context behind opinions and the need for empathy.
Tune in for honest stories, and practical tips on how we can create more love and understanding in the world, together. 
 
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Today we’re joined by the wonderful Florence Ọlájídé, a woman whose story will stay with you long after you hear it.
Born in Britain to Nigerian parents, Florence was privately fostered by a white family before being taken to Nigeria by her birth parents.
Her journey is one of incredible strength - overcoming loss, loneliness, poverty, and maltreatment, while fighting fiercely for her education and identity. It’s a moving and deeply inspiring story about resilience, courage, and finding your true voice through hardship.
Florence’s memoir, Coconut, has received glowing reviews and was featured on the Graham Norton Book Club. Her second book, The Stolen Daughter, is a powerful historical novel inspired by a family secret - the story of one of her ancestors forced into slavery.
Florence was also shortlisted for Penguin Random House’s WriteNow London workshop in 2018.
This conversation will remind you that no matter where you come from or what you’ve faced, your story matters - and it’s never too late to rewrite it with courage and heart.
With love, Ivana & Yaw xx
 
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In today's episode of Life in Black & White, we sit down with mindset coach Hayden Griffiths for an honest, no-filter chat about what it really takes to transform your life.
Hayden opens up about his journey from battling addiction to helping others rewrite their own stories. Together, we dive into how childhood experiences shape who we become, why mindset is everything, and how embracing vulnerability can unlock real success.
We also tackle big questions, like why self-development should be taught in schools and how understanding your own mind can uncover the genius within you.
This conversation is raw, inspiring, and a must-listen for anyone ready to break free from old patterns and start living with purpose.
Tune in and discover how your mindset could be the key to the life you’ve been searching for.
Love,
Ivana & Yaw

How much of what we believe is truly ours—and how much is “soft-wired” into our brains?
In this eye-opening conversation, the Hypnotherapist Dipti Tait dives into the science of soft wiring, showing how our beliefs and biases shape the way we perceive others.
We explore why identity and culture can be so divisive, the primitive roots of snap judgments, and how these hidden patterns influence our relationships.
More importantly, Dipti shares practical insights on how communication, curiosity, and thoughtful debate can help us bridge divides, update old beliefs, and foster deeper understanding.
Tune in to learn how small shifts in thinking can lead to bigger connections—and a more open-minded, empathetic way of navigating the world.
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Join us on this inspiring episode of Life in Black & White as we sit down with Charlotte Kelly, the talented voice behind the iconic band Soul to Soul. From navigating the highs and lows of the music industry to embracing the power of songwriting, Charlotte opens up about the challenges of fame, the role of cultural identity in her artistry, and the realities of performing live.
Beyond music, she shares her honest experiences with confidence, mental health, and personal growth, offering heartfelt advice for aspiring artists and young dreamers alike. Plus, Charlotte reflects on the joys and lessons of parenting, giving listeners a glimpse into how life off-stage shapes her journey.
Tune in for an intimate conversation packed with insight, inspiration, and practical guidance for anyone chasing their dreams while staying true to themselves.
 
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What happens when love meets culture?
In this episode of Life in Black & White, we chat with Dr. Melissa Cancel about how cultural differences shape marriage, communication, and even parenting.
From individualism vs collectivism to those “lost in translation” moments in everyday conversations, we explore why understanding (not judging) each other’s backgrounds is so important.
Expect honest stories, practical tips, and plenty of encouragement for couples navigating cultural diversity.
With love,
Ivana & Yaw 
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What happens when your child’s race isn’t your own?
In this raw and eye-opening episode, we explore the unspoken challenges of parenting across racial lines.
Joined by Sarah Wood, a fellow white mum raising mixed-race children, we dive into the complex realities of navigating identity, having tough conversations, and confronting the biases that society (and sometimes we) hold.
This isn’t about having all the answers - it’s about learning, listening, and showing up for our children in ways that truly honour who they are.
Whether you’re parenting across race or simply want to raise more empathetic, aware kids, this episode will challenge what you think you know - and leave you with powerful takeaways you can start using today.
With love,Ivana & Yaw
 
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Ever wondered what it’s really like raising kids to speak more than one language?
In this episode, we’re diving into our personal journey of raising bilingual children. Our boys speak English and Slovak, and we’re also introducing them to Ghanaian Chi. 
We’re sharing:
The little known benefits of bilingual parenting
The challenges no one talks about
Practical ways to keep multiple languages alive at home
How language shapes our kids’ identity and confidence
Whether you're just getting started or deep into the bilingual journey, you’ll walk away with fresh insights, relatable stories, and real tips you can actually use.
Tune in, and let’s explore the beautiful chaos of multilingual parenting together.
Love,Ivana & Yaw xx
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